so my good friend Mike sent me some questions that are awesome! i knew he would he has a talent for words. so in an attempt to answer them in the best possible way, here we go!
1.Name a favorite blogger you don’t know personally and explain why you like him/her.
my favorite blogger who i do not know personally would have to be Mandy from small town girl. i forget how i found her blog, but the minute i read it, i was instantly impressed and thought that we had a lot in common, turns out we do. she was the first person to interview me and now its like i have a bff internet friend, it is pretty cool.
2.If you were best friends with a cartoon character from the 80s, who would it be?
Great Question! and an easy answer for me at least, but he might be from the late 80s. my best friend would be Calvin from Calvin and Hobbes. part of me thinks hobbes was actually real and part of me totally understands the imaginary friend. i had on in kindergarten whose name was sara and she unfortunately got hit by a car. it was tragic, but she got lots of good gifts at the funeral. i even named my dog Hobbes after that comic strip.
3.If you could have a reunion with someone from your past that you no long keep in any kind of contact with, who would it be and why were they important to you?
that is a toss up, so in a two part answer an alive person and someone who has passed away. the first would be mrs. gordon. she was my social studies and language arts teacher in middle school. my middle school was very small and very cliquey, mrs. gordon saw the torment that people would put other people through and somehow make you feel better about yourself. and when we were in 8th grade we had a living through american history course where we started our own country, it was her that initially planted the seed to pursue history. the person i would want to reunite with who has passed away was my softball coach joel hall. he passed away at a very young age and was that adult who was so cool and believed in everyone who played for him. he played double a ball for a while so that probably elevated his podium in my book.
4.What’s the biggest challenge of being part of an insta’ family?
i was just talking to kevin about something similiar the other day. when i was growing up, i used to joke that yeah i wanted kids, but i didn’t really want to go through labor, changing diapers or potty training, just give me back the kid around 11 or 12. well be careful what you wish for! there are two things that are a bit of challenge, the first being that we went from dating and having visits with nick to having him full time and being responsible for EVERYTHING overnight. just digesting all the changes at first was difficult, but realizing that our freedom as a couple had completely changed took a little bit longer, and at times i think we both look at that past. the other is that no matter how much i am there for nick, i will never be his mother, and that is fine with me, i will always be jen, but i have noticed at times when he is angry at the world that he will take it out on me because i am there so i just need to learn to be patient with that and remember that its not me personally its all the other shit that swirls around.
5.What’s the biggest reward of the same?
and of course the flip side of all that is kevin nick and i have formed a wonderful little family unit. with all the ups and downs and bad progress reports and lies, the foundation that we have in place for nick is the most rewarding thing ever. i get to witness the everyday development of kid with a huge personality and great potential and do not know how any mom would give that up. plus we still get time for ourselves when nick goes to his moms and everything seems to work out just fine.
Thanks Mike those were great questions!