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the end of an era…

Mable the Malibu was generously giving to my by my favorite Grandma. She has lived in North Stonington, New London and Newington. She has taken me home to Michigan for a girls weekend, to Cleveland for a funeral and numerous trips to New Jersey. Our first vacation together with the family in Rhode Island. We spent a week in Little Compton and put on a thousand miles driving back and forth for the baseball championship games, followed by a trip to the air show that resulted in her first flat tire.

She served as my phone charger, ipod charger, closet with wheels,  coin bank, and sports locker.

She took me to my grad classes and faithfully drove through atrocious weather. I cannot remember the last time we had her oil changed and can only explain why she started with divine intervention.

When paddy the Impala came into the picture, she dutifully took us to work and school and practices, never showing signs of jealousy.

She still started this summer even after our newest addition, phat betty. But her age was beginning to show. A rear flat tire showed up just after Christmas, followed by a front flat and the decision was made to send her off to greener pastures…

R.I.P Mable…you did good…

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Happy saturday!


Why can’t all the trees be this pretty?

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the decade post…

i came to the realization today that we are entering a new decade and that made me think about this past decade… of course initially i heard “ten years ago…on a cold dark night…” but those lyrics are really not where i am heading so i am doing my best to force them out of my head, at least for now…

2000-mags and i had a new years party and i remember running out to my 1990 pontiac grand prix (red of course) to see if the computer still worked-we had spent a lot of time hearing about how planes would fall out of the sky and credit debt would be erased because the computers could not handle the extra zeros…alas the car worked fine, the planes did not fall out of the sky and i still had to pay off the credit cards.  then i Graduated from Siena Heights University with a bachelors in History…Had NO idea what that meant.

2001-languished in Adrian Michigan for a bit too long, spent time during holidays in not so happy places. i had a hard time thinking of anything positive. moved home and into my grandmother’s house, which became my own, played slow pitch softball with mags and was on a bowling team, had bear-the crazy dog who eventually ran away from home, was hit by a car, came home and proceeded to lunge at me every time i went to fill the water bowl…not a pretty sight, needless to say bear is no longer with us, it was a very difficult time but everything worked out in the end. had my first pulmonary embolism right before my parents 25th wedding anniversary, NICE timing! thank you aunt ann for staying with me, not being intimidated by bear and calling 911.

2002-kept working with special people, bowled, got sick again, still had no idea what i was doing, a dog found me-hobbes, we just went to look but he sat on my feet and i was DONE. i brought that little puppy home that night, didn’t have the heart to put him in the crate so i put puppy pads on my bed and he slept next to my head…never once making a mess which meant it was a match made in heaven!

2003worked at my girl scout camp, the one i grew up at and rode horses at, and fell in love with all things horse realated…then moved to ct. i don’t remember the whole move, i remember driving out with the dogs in the rented trailblazer and i remember needing to vacuum my couch off before moving it inside, but that would be about it. 

2004-after moving with the family out to ct, had the most amazing ‘fat talk’ ever,then had the third pulmonary embolism. not too much fun but they had me on so much morphine that i REALLY don’t remember it. mary graduated from dayton. I started working at the seaport, worked at the arc with more special people and briefly at the village. had the surgery-thought i would die, became grateful that my sister has a lead foot, spent time with my grandmother when she taught me how to cross stitch and took me to a movie on the hottest day of the year when i had my entire stomach area stitched and patched and tubed and thought that my skin was melting off of my body because we had no air conditioning. grandma fritzen is one amazing person!

2005-traveled A LOT went back to Michigan, went to Disney world. worked in three different departments. met someone who i thought was the one, who swept me off my feet…briefly…

2006-thought i was in bliss, found out it was a lie, realized the importance of good friends and how fast one can move out of an apartment.they helped me move back in with the folks and showed me that i do matter and deserve a place to pick up the pieces. after a bit of time re-thinking who i was, i  took a chance and ended up meeting kevin…

2007-found out more about myself as a person, and found someone who appreciated me, worked  and changed jobs,started a blog,
and dated and enjoyed our time, vacation in rhode island with the family, moved in towards the end of the year and became the insta-family, from girlfriend to some type of mom figure in the blink of an eye, learned the ropes, baseball games, basketball games, student teacher conferences, homework, personal hygiene and loads o laundry…

2008-put up glow in the dark stars, adjusted to life with a life-size Alex Rodriguez fat head, walked a lot with hobbes, more baseball, was accepted to Trinity for grad school. we went on a vacation in washington where kevin asked me to become his wife…became a fiance, then came home to conferences and my first semester in grad school…

2009-second semester of grad school and met some amazing people, people i now count as friends. kevin moved on from one job to a better opportunity, vacation on the beach, dave concerts with my bestest friend, good grades and bad grades and all the ups and downs of living with a teenager, third semester of grad school and i think i have this bit down, over half way done. missing my old life but loving my new one. MARRIED! the one thing that i never thought possible, but now i am a firm believer in anything is possible!

anything is possible and for the first time ever i am looking forward to the next decade…Happy New Year!! ( and no i will not wear a long black veil…)

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where did ocotober go?

seriously? how did almost 31 days just completely pass me by? i have three papers due in the next three weeks, one of which includes an interview of the fabulous mandy. she has been kind enough to talk to me about her collection and has even offered to dust if off for pictures…i am eternally grateful! i am actually really curious to see how my professor reacts to a paper/interview done with someone whom i have never met in real life. for a millisecond i thought it was a bit off, but then realized that no, its not, there is an amazing community of people out there, that i would have never met had it not been for this little blog. that in itself is at least two pages! chinsey? i think not! brink of brilliance? definitely!

the other two projects will be rather easy its just a matter of sitting down and writing things out. this semester it seems the academic gods have smiled on me. gracing me with two fabulous classes, approving my final project (which i was nervous about, my advisor is a thesis stickler-gave me an entire speech about the thesis versus the final project and how the final project is only applicable to people who develope something that is practical in their area of work…well guess what?!? MINE IS!) which means this time next year, i will be a month away from finishing my grad degree…crazy…for something that i said i wanted before i was 35. whoa!

so here is to an event free class this evening, thank you for all the comments and in the weird twisted way the universe works, that poor kid was from where my parents used to live, is the cousin of a friends bridesmaid, and apparently felt so hopeless that there was no way out for him. i can relate, we have all felt that way before, some more extreme than others, but still i have to admit that i never want anyone close to me to fell that desperate and that lost. i will do everything in my power to make that NOT happen…

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the big 3-0…

its coming, this sunday i will see a birthday that i never thought i would see. don’t know why really, i was always convinced that once i turned 18, the world would end…well it didn’t, then i was convinced that as soon as i graduated college, i would cease to exists…again no go! and now i am turning 30. and i am really alright with that. just the past five years have been huge for me so i would like to think back. 

five years ago in early october my parents and i moved from kalamazoo michigan to north stonington connecticut. a bit of a culture shock, but i was in such a bad state i cannot remember the actual move. i wasn’t drugged or anything, but i was certainly out of it and to this day cannot remember a thing. that christmas i got sick…and had to find a new doctor, he asked me if i had ever tried to loose weight. now this i remember like it was yesterday because i broke down in tears and said “do you think i like looking like this? of course!!  i have tried everything!” and i started to list everything from weight watchers to atkins to prescribed medications to some not so prescribed things.

and that’s when the he simply suggested surgery. well that was a no brain-er for me sign me up! my dad was terrified-as i am sure most dads would be and my mom was supportive. but before that could happen i got sick again…in the hospital with another pulmonary embolism…which pushed the surgery back six months. to this day no one can tell me why i got those repeatedly.

well in between getting sick and scheduling the surgery, i got two jobs, one with special people and one at mystic seaport. the special people were great, but the job at mystic really made me realize just how much of a passion i have for history and i finally made up my mind of what i wanted to do for the rest of my life…be surrounded by old things! so now i was going for surgery and wanted my masters.

fast forward to july and i had my surgery, i went from this:
hpim0080         to this:

hpim0416in a little over a year, with major complications and all. but my whole outlook on life has completely changed from then on the things i began to realize seemed to me to be things that i could really accomplish. and now, i am in grad school, have a little family of my own and on my way to getting married. in just five years.

i am really excited to see what will happen in the next five years…i do know now that world is not going to end!!



p.s i have an aunt who is a nun and i always told her if i wasn’t married by the age of 35 (never thought i would get there…) that i would become a nun. sorry aunt rita! i hope that doesn’t count as a lie???

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those were our major purchases this weekend. i have entered the world of pot and pan envy! i loved the sets made by allclad, they were gorgeous and over $600, i think at that price they deserve a gourmet kitchen with racks to display them, i dont think i could possibly cook with them for fear of burning something and then ruining the pan, although is it true that if you spend that much on cookware, it wont burn? i think that should be a clause or a selling point. we ended up with a skillet with emerils name on it made by allclad, the sick thing is, i am really really really excited to cook with it (never thought that would enter my mind) and as a bonus, i can say BAM all the time! that will make my food even better, i am sure! we also got a new fuzzy bath mat and a paper towel holder. when we got home and put everything away and attached the holder, we sat down to have some lunch and i had this overwhelming feeling that this place is finally becoming home. not that it hasnt felt like we dont belong, it just seemed sterile i guess. i mentioned this to kevin and he kinda gave me a quizzical look but understood all the same. when nick came home today, he first noticed the toaster oven, that kevins dad gave us, and then the paper towel holder and made a very similar comment to what i had said the day before, kevin turned to me and said it must be the paper towel holder, it is funny what makes a place feel like home. we also went to guitar center to get a cord thing for kevins guitar, which he can now plug into the computer and use garage band, that is pretty cool! but even cooler is guitar center is right next to DSW and i got these, super cute, so different from anything i have ever worn, peep toe shoes that i want to wear right now, but its too cold!  

so i will have to wait until its a bit warmer, at least 50 because they are just way cute! i had an overwhelming desire to very girly when i was there, i also found a cute pair of black strapy sandals that i will be able to wear more frequently then the really sparkly ones, i had a great pair and i know i wore them the day or so that i  moved but i havent been able to find them, i think perhaps they were thrown away and after shedding many tears over them i have finally been able to move on. so we are starting another week, with great memories of going through mecca i mean DSW, oh and we went to a great concert at UHART, we saw this folk singer, cheryl wheeler. she was very funny and had a great voice and we saw her in a theatre that held maybe 250 people max, very intimate and very good! and she is on itunes if anyone wants to check her out. at first i felt a little intimadated by the crowd, they were all older very educated type people who probably all dove prius’ to the concert and if i looked really close they all had their birks on with wool socks, but as soon as she walked down the aisle up to the stage and started talking, she was just so cool and personable that i didnt mind all the smart people around me, she even talked about a gig she did out in kansas i think and the whole joke of the story was that the rental company only had a hummer available for her to rent and i just couldnt imagine her driving this monstrosity around and of course she had a great way of telling the story, what a great weekend… bring on monday!

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the eves…

when i moved out in august, i told my parents that i would be back to clean out the eves in my room. when we first moved out to ct, i had my own house that the movers packed up and and put in the eves at the new house. for some reason i do not really remember moving to ct, or how anything really got anywhere in the house, so i was convinced that there were many many many boxes hidden behind the door that was purposly hidden behind a dresser. with some apprehension i moved the dresser, grabbed a flashlight and went into the eves and to my surpise… four boxes… that was it! where did everything else go? i have no idea, i guess i did more cleaning than i thought i had. i do still have to go through the basement, but my sister will be home this weekend, so we can tackle that together.  overall a very productive weekend and it being st. patricks day,  my favorite saint day of all, i was fondly remembering the st. patricks days of long ago that included the annual kegs and eggs party and the endless amounts of green beer that mags and i would consume, ahh to be young…

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